Something that none of the bridal magazines or books seem to cover are the long in-between periods, from when you book your venue to when you actually get close enough to DO stuff with your venue - pick out your table overlays and fabrics, chairs, tastings – that kind of thing. What exactly are you supposed to be doing in the in-between period? Should you check in with your venue once a month? Once every other month?
You don’t want to be a pain, but you also likely put down a sizeable deposit and you want some reassurance as the months slowly pass by. You want to make sure that the same staff are still working there, and that nothing has changed since you signed a contract (because woe to you if you DIDN’T sign a contract!). These kinds of questions are all the more relevant as the engagement and planning periods lengthen as more brides and grooms are paying for their own weddings.
For example, we booked our venue over 14 months prior to our event - so it's no wonder that I’ve been itching to do our food tasting! And to play with the tablecloths and Chiavari chairs! And don’t even get me started on wanting to do the cake tastings… (oh yes, I said tastings! Our cake is included with our reception package and we have the option of 2 bakeries, so you know we will be doing tastings at both!) But it also seems to make sense to wait until we’re 6 months out or so to do these things…so right now I’m almost ready to speed through fall and get into winter already!! (Note I said ALMOST ready!)
For my own in-between period, as we’ve booked each vendor, I’ve sent an email to our coordinator at our venue letting her know who we’ve hired for flowers, DJ, and so on. Sending out these emails every 6 or 8 weeks has been a nice way to check in and remind her that while our event is still quite a ways away, we’re making progress and we’re excited!
Are you in the dreaded in-between period? How often did you stay in touch with various vendors and your venues?